So, you are looking for a counselor in Missoula. You’ve done the searches, you’ve found some phone numbers, and some kind looking pictures. Now what? How do you choose who you want to sit down and share your inner life and secrets with?
Just like interviewing for a job or a rental house or a potential life partner…which I have done many times over the years….it seems to me, for the longest time, I felt like I HAD TO SOMEHOW TRY to BE everything the other person wanted me to be. Tried (and failed) to give them the exact answers I thought they were looking for. Now I take the opposite approach….I ask them questions and then assess if their answers work for me!!!
Here are some questions to ask when you’re shopping for a new local counselor. It is ok and normal to have a free 15-minute phone consultation with a potential therapist before meeting with them in person.
1) As a counselor, what traits do the clients you love working with the most have in common?
2) You probably want a therapist who is a good “active” listener…that means she doesn’t just nod and say hmmmm. I prefer a therapist who talks too (not too much though). You can tell if the counselor is a good listener if you feel heard and understood when takling with them. Focus on how it feels talking to them.
3) What is the therapist’s general approach to working on your particular issues? It’s also very helpful if you have previous experience with therapy to let it be known your preferred way to work…whether you love reading articles, watching videos, having homework, etc.
4) Do you find the therapist trustworthy and likeable?
5) Does the therapist have expertise working with issues like yours? Have you helped others like me or with this difficulty?
6) How available is the therapist? What are the first 3 sessions like? How long will this take?
The takeaway here is that you want to find someone that you can dig into the messy beautiful parts of life with. If you are looking for a therapist in Missoula or an online therapist in Montana contact me for your free 15-minute phone consultation for counseling.